We’ve all got that weird, pretty big secret that we don’t really hide, but we don’t flaunt it. Like “my brother died of cancer” or “I’m gay” or “I tried to kill myself last year” or anything really. And when you find out somebody’s big plot twist, you know you’re in this friendship for the long run.
“No matter how good things are, there will always be solitary nights you spend in your bedroom, in a car, or in a party full of your closest friends when it feels like the walls are caving in.”—Dan Campbell (via t0xicfairies)
the worst is having a dream where someone loves you and you can practically feel them touching you and it feels so real and then you wake up and it’s like the life is being sucked out of you and the happiness just drains out of your body and you feel empty again
“I already said too much. I already shared too much, and I want all my secrets back. I hate getting close to people these days, I always regret sharing too much, caring too much, doing too much, feeling too much.”—Anonymous (via wanduring)
Internships are the building blocks of your résumé. Apply to them. Meet people.
Choose a degree that is relevant to the real world. Minor in History if you love it so much.
Everyone knows how to use Microsoft Office. Putting it under the “Skills” section of your résumé is not impressive.
See the world. This is the only time you have in your life to spend months in a foreign country. Take advantage of your lack of responsibility to travel.
99.9% of employers will never look at your transcript. A 4.0 GPA will not land you a job. Good interpersonal skills might.
No employer cares whether you were on the executive board of your fraternity or sorority or other campus organization. Serve the organization because you love it, not simply to use it as space-filler on your résumé.
Proofread everything. Twice. Or else no one will believe that you’re “detial-oriented.”
You have four (or five) years to make something of yourself. Use that time wisely.
Go out with your friends on a Tuesday night despite having a test on Wednesday. The test won’t matter in ten years, but your friendships will.
Do not expect the college senior to fall in love with you after you sleep together. Actually, just don’t sleep together. This will not end well.
Really get to know your professors. Use office hours to your advantage. You never know what doors they can open for you.
Graduate school is rarely a good idea, especially if you’re only using it to delay the real world for a few years. The more money you make now, the less debt you’ll have later.
Realize that you will be in debt until you’re forty. Make peace with this early.
One bad grade won’t ruin your life. Get over yourself.
Beware of credit cards. No matter what they say, money isn’t free.
Don’t burn bridges. You never know when you might need help from someone.
Eat good food. Nothing will make you feel worse than six straight nights of Ramen.
Buy a plunger before you actually need said plunger. Just trust me on this one.
Press save. It will keep you from having that 4:00am mental breakdown.
All-nighters will not help you learn the material. Budget time throughout the day to study so that you can actually sleep before the final exam.
Use a condom. No one wants that “I’m late” text.
Work during the summers. Employers want someone with real-life experience.
Call your mom once a week. She wants to stay involved in your life, and a twenty-minute phone conversation won’t kill you.
You have four years to learn your alcohol limit. This will save you from puking at the office Christmas party.
The college cafeteria will make you fat. So will alcohol. Be careful about what you’re putting into your body.
Find a few hours each week to work out. Cardio is great stress relief.
So is sex. Booty calls are sometimes necessary. Don’t beat yourself up for it in the morning.
Learn to cook. Eating out is expensive and unhealthy. A few basics can last you a long time.
Take pictures. Not everything has to be posted to Instagram, but you will want to have these memories documented.
Volunteer. Not because you have to, but because you want to. The Humane Society always needs people to play with the animals.
Learn how to budget. Your parents won’t be around to give you money forever.
Buy shower shoes. Use them. Save yourself from foot fungus.
Beer is expensive. Buy vodka.
Interviews are nerve-wracking. Practice with a friend before you go.
Find good references. They can be the difference between being offered your dream job and being turned down.
It’s okay to turn down your first job offer to wait for a better one. Have faith in yourself.
If you’re treated like a slave at your internship, it’s okay to leave. Find a company that sees your worth.
Learn how to code HTML. This is an invaluable skill.
Also learn Photoshop. Every company in the world needs someone who can design a poster.
Take a couple classes just for fun. There’s a difference between smart and educated.
Know your priorities. Stick to them.
Start searching for a job a year before you graduate. It takes time to find something you want.
Apply for jobs you may not be completely qualified for. You may be the only applicant.
Don’t get too discouraged when you fail at something. Lay in bed for two days. Cry. Then get back up and start living again.
Everyone has something to teach you. Listen to them.
Make mistakes, but be sure to learn from them.
Textbooks are expensive and you will never need them again. Rent, don’t buy.
No one will ever care how wasted you were last night. They saw it first hand. Shut up.
No one is responsible for you except you. Think twice before you do something.
Don’t think that these have to be the best four years of your life. Life after graduation is pretty awesome too.
When he was in my life, I would think about showering with him. After he left, I would sit on the ground in the shower and cry. When I got over him, I showered so quickly there was no time for dancing, fantasies or tears.
Someone can invade the smallest parts of your life, you won’t even realize it until you dance in the shower again and wonder why you ever stopped.
do you ever wanna talk about a thing but you know you already talk about it too much and your friends are sick of hearing about it so instead you just hold it all inside you and constantly feel like you’re gonna burst?
“Smart girls are the overthinkers, the insecure ones, the different ones. They know what the real world is like. They analyze every little thing in life. Why? To avoid getting hurt. To find happiness. They stay up at night trying to think about every possible situation to get through all the problems. They think too much. They trust fewer people. Their insecurity proves their respect toward themselves. Of course they try to live away from a drama-filled life. Smart girls know their worth. Now those are the ones worth keeping by your side.”—(via dingyfeathers)
“And you tried to change, didn’t you? Closed your mouth more. Tried to be softer, prettier, less volatile, less awake… You can’t make homes out of human beings. Someone should have already told you that. And if he wants to leave, then let him leave. You are terrifying, and strange, and beautiful. Something not everyone knows how to love.”—Warsan Shire, For Women Who Are Difficult To Love (via fawun)
so now you’re about to turn twenty and the world hasn’t gotten any bigger for you. you’re untouched, unloved, unprepared. your parents still pay for your gas. your friends all have internships. one of them even got cast to be in a movie. you’ve got all this talent that you don’t know how to share. you just want to fuck someone, anyone, to feel a little less like an island. the man at the McDonald’s drive-thru held both sides of your hand when he handed you your change and you cried the entire way home. skin burns. you’re about to turn twenty and you feel like you’re fifteen. you sleep for fourteen hours and still need a nap. the world is shrinking one empty heartache at a time.
you’re scared you’ll never find anyone to love you, not even well. you’ll settle for anything.
you’re about to turn twenty and they never remind you how young that is. falling in love does not make you grow up, heartbreak does, and there is more than one way to fall apart.
you’re about to turn twenty and it’s okay if you aren’t ready. it’s okay if you aren’t ready. it’s okay.
“Of course I’ll hurt you. Of course you’ll hurt me. Of course we will hurt each other. But this is the very condition of existence. To become spring, means accepting the risk of winter. To become presence, means accepting the risk of absence.”—The Little Prince (via araeni)
“I used to work at McDonald’s making minimum wage. You know what that means when someone pays you minimum wage? You know what your boss was trying to say? ‘Hey if I could pay you less, I would, but it’s against the law.’”—Chris Rock (via anditslove)